WEDDING TOASTS GIVE FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES A CHANCE TO EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS. WEDDING SPEECHES ALSO SIGNAL THE END OF THE FORMALITY AND THE START OF THE FESTIVITIES.
Who does the wedding toasts...
- The host (traditionally the bride's father) thanks the guests for coming, and says a few words.
- The best man/person typically gives the first toast, and that can be the only toast, if the bride and groom wishes.
- The maid/matron of honor or honor attendant may also offer a toast.
- The bride and groom may raise their glass to each other, and then offer thanks to (groom traditionally did this); the host of the party (could be parents or anyone who helped pay for wedding ), their wedding party, and to their guests for sharing their special moment.
- The bride and groom's parents may offer a toast after the bride and/or groom speak. It's appropriate for the parents that host the reception to speak first, they will toast to the bride and groom, and then to the other parents.
- Tip; At the end of the toasts, have the groom or father of the bride inform guests of the next activity at the reception.
If you're planning more than one toast, keep a flow throughout the party: For a sit down dinner, break up the toasts between courses, and before guests finish eating. If it's buffet style, toasts can be done all at once, or do half of the toasts at the beginning of dinner, and the other half before guests finish eating.
- Keep it short (no longer than 3 minutes) and simple. A short sentiment from the heart can be more meaningful than a long speech.
- Be prepared, plan your toast, and practice your toast out loud ahead of time. You can take notes, but don't read right from your notes, just use them as a guide.
- Take a deep breath and smile!
- Make sure you address both the bride and groom, even if your only good friends with just the bride or groom. And when you stand, let the guests know who you are.
- Glasses don't have to be filled with champagne or sparkling wine, if the guests glass is empty, they can raise their empty glass. Guests can toast with whatever is in their glass (remember, some people don't or can't drink alcohol).
- It's great to use your own personal thoughts and sentiments. But, If you don't know where to begin, check into professional help.
- Do some homework and find some interesting, sweet or funny facts about the bride and groom. For instance, how they met or what happened on their first date. This is not a good time to bring up embarrassing stories about their past.
- Use personal stories or humor but end on a serious, sentimental note.
- End your toast by raising your glass, and taking a sip of your drink.
Resources: sample wedding toasts